I could go on and on, since many of CRM sessions are very intense in emotions, rich in beauties and lessons, and are making a significant difference in clients lives. But as far as gestational/generational healing is involved, I found CRM to be at the very tip point of what is needed in our current civilization to finally overcome the traumas of the past – both in oneself and in the human kind as a whole.
As a 40 years old French psychologist and therapist, for fifteen years I worked mostly with psychodynamic approach, hypnosis and mindfulness, in search of a method able to make a real difference in clients’ life through a deep change of consciousness. My wish was only fulfilled when I witnessed during a training what CRM can reach, both in myself as a client and in my own patients, some of them severely dissociated. As far as I’m concerned, CRM is the only trauma treatment modality that is efficient and I must say, that consistent in its case conceptualization and theory of human attachment and sanity.
A year ago, I was working with Lisa Schwarz to make peace, first within myself, with my early attachment disruption. Which had recently caused a violent communication breakdown with both my parents, from which my own children were suffering. Although it has been caused by actual events, I realized in a single gestational session what I suffered back then, meaning the day I was born. Immediately after birth I was placed in an incubator, with no touch or sight of my parents for four days. Only then was I able to be held by them and directly fed by my mother. And it was at that moment, to my greatest surprise, that the difficulties arose and the neurobiology of disruption and distress was firing the most. It was the reunification and the shock of being reconnected that underlined the disconnection, the fear and the pain. As the session was moving forward not only did I narrated and felt what happened and cried and took my breath again, but also was I able to exist in their presence in a calming and apeasing way, and a forgiving one. The other neuro circuit of secure attachment was lit at the same time as my body and brain were brought together to face the harshness of early traumas. And that is the main beauty of CRM : to resource in goodness while re-membering even the most painful events of one’s life, and to embody both of these aspects in the present. It is like finally being able to stay at home and not having to wander anymore to find a way back. The week after this very session I phone called my parents and a meeting was arranged, and our relationships improved a lot since. As a matter of fact I just celebrated my birthday with them and my wife and kids and everything went smoothly.
Then I could talk about my work as a clinician with a severely depressed woman, about fifty, social anxiety, disregulated, with a recent past of severe alcoholism, with a certain lack of insight regarding her own pain. And within two months of intensive CRM treatment, we were able to heal a child part in her still mourning since her mother’s death of cancer at a very early stage in her life. Then to reconnect with past generational traumas involving betrayal and distrust within the family. And in a matter of weeks I saw her unfolding, her tone of voice, her insight, the way she looked at people, and the possibility to be in her body, and stop harassing her teenage boy with her anxiety, and starting to dress better and to regain confidence. Then she managed to be hired for a far better job, and a month after, she moved for a far better apartment. She was able to confront her father and her mother-in-law and to bring light on what happened. From the recovery of her very early traumas – some of them conveyed generationaly by her long-gone mother – she was re-membering her own strength and will and love for life. And the adult part, shy and hidden, was in the front seat again. These changes were kind of a surprise to her, like she didn’t expected that much from healing. I have to add she was very dedicated and took her CRM « homework » heartfully, the layer of resources reinforced by repetition (toning, the use of visualized geometry, New Truth and so on).
I could share some other amazing and ongoing therapeutic process. For women especially, it is very helpful with maternity, I work with a woman pregnant of her fourth child and traumatized because she could have died at birth and was the last of three, and her grandmother aborted her fourth baby. And within a matter of few sessions she felt again secure and completely alive in her body and feeling the sacred bond with her baby. It was beautiful to see how they connected together, despite many difficulties in the maternal lineage !
And this other woman who is currently clearing her childhood trauma from bombing and invasion of Beyrouth in 1982 and how it affected her relationships with her three daughters. She was able to rely to the land, the language, recovering songs heard at an early age, the smell of flowers and the trees, and a secure attachment to some of her family members. And it was then possible to face the truth of the horror of what happened to her, her family and her community during these events. Again, an emotional regulation, adjustment in relations and regain of energy is noticeable.